This past weekend I had some great quality time with a friend. We were talking about my existential crisis, quarter life crisis, general CRAZY, however you would like to describe it.
She said something that made me stop and think. Apparently, that was a thing this weekend.
“I think you need to really focus on being kinder to yourself. You are a good person. At the end of the day, that’s what counts. Be nicer to yourself.”
What good advice.
I strive to be a good person, every day. Of course, there are days I fail, but I feel like in my heart, I default to being a “good” person. I don’t try to hurt people, I give what I can, I will stop the car to help a turtle across the road, I don’t like to be mean to people.
Is being a good person enough for me to cut myself some slack? I will never look like a Victoria’s Secret model, mostly because I don’t have the dedication or desire to put THAT much effort in to my eating/fitness plans, and also because I’m only 5’6.
I’ll never be CEO of a Fortune 500 company, but I don’t really want to be either, so that’s okay. I have to face the reality that my writing may never be printed. Although saying that makes my soul ache, it may just not be in the cards for me.
How am I going to define my success going forward so that I can be kinder to myself and also not feel like I’m so behind the curve that I’ll never catch up. Don’t you know, I’ve been comparing and letting it steal my joy.
I think I need to find out what I really think of as success and go from there.
What do you think?